bbook:

But for young women, the culture of slut shaming that the Kristen Stewart scandal represents won’t go away. I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for all the young women today who are tuned into this scandal, ones who are learning that it’s not okay to screw up, ever. Chris Brown can publicly beat the hell out of his girlfriend but still be played on the radio and win Grammys. However, if you ever cheat on your boyfriend, your life is over and no one will ever want to be associated with you. Almost no one will blame the much-older guy you cheated with, and it might actually make him more famous andhelp his career. Few will care that he was your boss and in a position of authority or that he may have have taken advantage of your youth and relative inexperience. Everything is your fault, and your life will be threatened over it. If you are a trampire, you will be publicly staked for it, even though cheater Ashton Kutcher recently emerged relatively unscathed by the media. No one asked for him to be fired from Two and a Half Men.
I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for my younger stepsister who has pictures of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson on her walls, who idolizes and worships them, and who might grow up to hate Kristen Stewart for reasons she doesn’t understand. I’m worried she will be taught that it’s not okay to mess up, learn from it and apologize, because no one wants your apology, just your suffering on camera. I’m worried that she’ll think its okay to harass and threaten women for their indiscretions, even if men get off scot-free. I’m worried she will think this culture of bullying, slut-shaming and rhetorical violence against women is the norm, because you get a t-shirt for it. I’m worried she will learn to internalize the shame brought on far too many women today, for having sexualities, for not being perfect, for not fitting into a box. I’m worried she’ll believe men like Todd Akin, Paul Ryan and Mike Huckabee are right.
Because even if she doesn’t know who Akin, Ryan and Huckabee are, even if she doesn’t pay attention to politics or the radical right-wing GOP, she does pay attention to Twilight and Robsten. And if we want to empower her to be a strong, independently minded woman who knows that her body, sexuality and safety are legitimate and can stand up for her rights, we need to pay attention, too. This might seem ridiculous to us, and most people I know can’t wait to stop talking about it. But for her, having this conversation makes a difference. Although no young woman shouldn’t think it’s okay to cheat, what we are teaching them right now is so much worse.
“Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women

Ah, the media backlash against the media backlash! You’re right on time!
Yo dawg no offense but if your child has Twilight posters on her wall and idolizes Bella, I think she may have many more problems with her development as a healthy young lady. Who is she going to identify with? A narrative or a tabloid?
Using Chris Brown as an example here is pretty misguided. He’s pretty universally hated at this point. Saying that Ashton Kutcher came out of his recent (though they had an open relationship) cheating scandal ‘unscathed’ wildly overestimates the level that the public gives a shit about Ashton Kutcher.
Rupert Sanders is not a persona, he’s a director. He doesn’t represent a role or a narrative or an idea. He is a director that was previously not very well-known outside of advertising. You put his picture in your magazine. You profiled his family. You talked about how he wants to work it out with his wife.
And not to throw the first stone here, but it’s still a really bad idea to sleep with another person’s spouse. I would say it’s your best bet is to not do it. Man or Woman. Especially if you are a celebrity. Especially if you are in a celebrity power couple. (It is a bad idea in the same way that cheating on your spouse is a bad idea).
DAMMIT LOOK WHAT YOU ALL DID WHY AM I EVEN TALKING ABOUT THIS.

bbook:

But for young women, the culture of slut shaming that the Kristen Stewart scandal represents won’t go away. I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for all the young women today who are tuned into this scandal, ones who are learning that it’s not okay to screw up, ever. Chris Brown can publicly beat the hell out of his girlfriend but still be played on the radio and win Grammys. However, if you ever cheat on your boyfriend, your life is over and no one will ever want to be associated with you. Almost no one will blame the much-older guy you cheated with, and it might actually make him more famous andhelp his career. Few will care that he was your boss and in a position of authority or that he may have have taken advantage of your youth and relative inexperience. Everything is your fault, and your life will be threatened over it. If you are a trampire, you will be publicly staked for it, even though cheater Ashton Kutcher recently emerged relatively unscathed by the media. No one asked for him to be fired from Two and a Half Men.

I might not be concerned for K-Stew, but I am concerned for my younger stepsister who has pictures of Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson on her walls, who idolizes and worships them, and who might grow up to hate Kristen Stewart for reasons she doesn’t understand. I’m worried she will be taught that it’s not okay to mess up, learn from it and apologize, because no one wants your apology, just your suffering on camera. I’m worried that she’ll think its okay to harass and threaten women for their indiscretions, even if men get off scot-free. I’m worried she will think this culture of bullying, slut-shaming and rhetorical violence against women is the norm, because you get a t-shirt for it. I’m worried she will learn to internalize the shame brought on far too many women today, for having sexualities, for not being perfect, for not fitting into a box. I’m worried she’ll believe men like Todd Akin, Paul Ryan and Mike Huckabee are right.

Because even if she doesn’t know who Akin, Ryan and Huckabee are, even if she doesn’t pay attention to politics or the radical right-wing GOP, she does pay attention to Twilight and Robsten. And if we want to empower her to be a strong, independently minded woman who knows that her body, sexuality and safety are legitimate and can stand up for her rights, we need to pay attention, too. This might seem ridiculous to us, and most people I know can’t wait to stop talking about it. But for her, having this conversation makes a difference. Although no young woman shouldn’t think it’s okay to cheat, what we are teaching them right now is so much worse.

“Trampire:” Why the Public Slut Shaming of Kristen Stewart Matters for Young Women

Ah, the media backlash against the media backlash! You’re right on time!

Yo dawg no offense but if your child has Twilight posters on her wall and idolizes Bella, I think she may have many more problems with her development as a healthy young lady. Who is she going to identify with? A narrative or a tabloid?

Using Chris Brown as an example here is pretty misguided. He’s pretty universally hated at this point. Saying that Ashton Kutcher came out of his recent (though they had an open relationship) cheating scandal ‘unscathed’ wildly overestimates the level that the public gives a shit about Ashton Kutcher.

Rupert Sanders is not a persona, he’s a director. He doesn’t represent a role or a narrative or an idea. He is a director that was previously not very well-known outside of advertising. You put his picture in your magazine. You profiled his family. You talked about how he wants to work it out with his wife.

And not to throw the first stone here, but it’s still a really bad idea to sleep with another person’s spouse. I would say it’s your best bet is to not do it. Man or Woman. Especially if you are a celebrity. Especially if you are in a celebrity power couple. (It is a bad idea in the same way that cheating on your spouse is a bad idea).

DAMMIT LOOK WHAT YOU ALL DID WHY AM I EVEN TALKING ABOUT THIS.

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